Allow me.
Happy new year, lol. This is the first newsletter I'm sending this year. I wasn't feeling January well enough to write anything. Besides, I started exams too and life has seemed a bit chaotic. I'm kidding. Life's been great. I've been eating a lot, thanks to Flo baby.
I know I'm a big advocate for the notion that men are scum, but there his boy. Tbh, he's not part of the scum. He's such a sweet boy, I might marry him. I can even send him #1,300 out of the #1,400 in my akant.😌
Something happened to me one of these days and I was inspired to write on it. Being in a relationship is a lot and if you're in one, you should be willing to do the work.
Due to the presence of social media in the lives of many people, it looks like there's a standard to be met. They forget that it's a different circumstance, situation and environment. Your relationship can never be the same as another person's own. Besides, it's only the good part they show you. The bad parts? They fold them and keep below the box and away from the public. You should not have to "mold" someone else to a certain standard. You should not try to change them in order to meet a standard.
To stay or not to stay
What's the point of being with that person? Is staying worth it? I feel like when there's a misunderstanding or an argument, the next resolve shouldn't be leaving. I feel like you should try to talk or probably understand both sides. If it doesn't work that way, maybe leaving comes in. I stand to be corrected though.
It's a very personal decision if you want to be in a relationship or not. It's not by force and you shouldn't be in one out of obligation or because you think you're getting older and your mummy would soon start asking you to bring man home.
Sometimes, we're not always patient enough to talk things out with someone. Many times, we take sudden decisions especially in the heat of the situation and call things off. When you're calm is when you start to think if it was worth it. Often times, it's too late to realise your "mistake" and what could have become a happy ending was just an ordinary end. And sometimes, that's just the way it should have happened.
Telling too many people about your plight might not necessarily be a good idea. It's only you and you alone that understands the situation and should take the right decision. Always put it behind you that not everything is love love (mumu mumu love). You should open your eyes to see when someone treats you wrongly and be wise enough to say "I can't settle for this." Again, efforts is a key point.
I always say this, "until another person is in the same situation as you, most advice they give isn't realistic. They'll probably take the same decision if they were in your shoes."
This thing is so long and I feel like I still haven't said half of what I intended on saying. I'll try as much as possible not to talk about relationship themed issue, because there's no perfect and there's no particular way to deal with everything that comes with it. It's more like the participant's discretion is needed pertaining to such issue.
Una wey dey relationship dey try sha.
If this month goes well, I'll send another newsletter.
And today, I'm saying a very fat thank you to everyone who takes Thier time to read, share, subscribe to and comment on my newsletter. I'm thankful. See you soon, x.
I know one lead city boy will later find his way to your heartðŸ˜
God, my Sapphire is goneðŸ˜.
Best in relationship advice - someone that's not in a relationship few days to valentine.
If Incase I fall in love, which I hope I don't, I would take heed to your advice.🥺
Splendid piece!!! I felt a resonation 🥲